Tuesday, December 20, 2005

Eligible men, shortage

Is polygamy the answer to the shidduch crisis? (Think: multiple wives/in-laws supporting you!)
Jerusalem Post:

....By most accounts, there is a burgeoning surplus of eligible Jewish females looking to marry, and a major shortfall in available Jewish men.
"This is no longer just a concern," one rabbi involved in the matchmaking industry told me, "this is a full-blown crisis." Despite the advent of modern innovations such as speed-dating, Jewish dating fairs and singles' cruises; and the proliferation of creative organizations like JDate and Saw You at Sinai, large numbers of wonderful Jewish women are searching in vain to find their mate.
Attendance at many singles' functions can run 3-1 in favor of the women, and files of professional matchmakers are overflowing with young ladies looking for love, while precious few men bother to apply.
Understanding the basis for this phenomenon goes much deeper than birth-rates. Although female births do outnumber male births, the percentage is relatively close, about 51-49 percent. And while women tend to live an average of three years longer than men, by the time that statistic becomes relevant, it's way too late to start thinking about marriage.
So why the guy gap?
ANY NUMBER of theories has been suggested: Men can date a much wider age-range of women...

And in the observant community, Jewish educators widely report that we are doing a much better job of educating and religiously sustaining our young women than our young men. So while the girls are either maintaining or increasing their spiritual level - attendance at women's seminaries continues to grow apace - the boys tend to drop out of the Orthodox world in much higher numbers.
There was a time when the male-female inequity did have at least one possible solution: polygamy...

posted by Yeshiva Orthodoxy
at 7:10 PM

15 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Baruch shekivanti! The Gr"a wanted to be mater the cherem.
All you need is a few people to do it and a panic will set in, and people will stop being picky very very fast.

7:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

A kollelman take a second wife, and explain this by saying "I can't live on just one income"

7:13 PM  
Anonymous OJ said...

"The Gr"a wanted to be mater the cherem."

Mokor ?

8:07 PM  
Blogger Classmate-Wearing-Yarmulka said...

Polygamy is a bad, bad, bad idea. All it does is skew the ratio in the other direction.

10:57 PM  
Anonymous SephardiLady said...

What a great way to create a whole other slew of crisises!

11:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Polygamy is a bad, bad, bad idea. All it does is skew the ratio in the other direction.
No it will just stop all the picky ones

11:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Find me one girl who would agree to become someone's (polygmatic?) wife!

12:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh no! Another whole set of tuitions!

1:14 AM  
Blogger Pragmatician said...

If all Kiruv efforts would be directed exclusively towards males for awhile, perhaps the balance could be restored.

8:04 AM  
Anonymous VFB said...

--- If all Kiruv efforts would be directed exclusively towards males for awhile, perhaps the balance could be restored. ---

There are many FFB girls who do not want to marry BT's for a variety of reasons. The more right wing you get, the more this is true. If we do as you say, there will be a new shidduch crisis, namely too many single BT guys.

10:28 AM  
Anonymous VFB said...

A solution some people suggested is letting guys who first come to Lakewood and are in the freezer date older girls. I doubt guys are going to date girls much older, but a little older they might. This might help somewhat.

10:30 AM  
Blogger yaak said...

I asked my wife if she would object to another.

She said "That's fine, as long as she does dishes, laundry, floors, windows, ..." :)

10:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

smart woman!

8:21 PM  
Anonymous SephardiLady said...

The male breadwinners out there will be a lot less interested in the thought of a 2nd wife.

12:08 AM  
Anonymous Bitmiya said...

the youngest guys still in the freezer will date the older girls??????????????

11:03 PM  

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